Family Constellations
WHAT IS FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS?
We experience many times in our lives that we get in the same situation over and over again but we cannot overcome a certain problem despite the fact that we decide to act differently next time.
We have certain patterns deep down in our soul that drive us towards the same ending again and again. The decision on conscious level is not enough.
Family constellations therapy has the capacity to show the invisible patterns, the forces that drive us in difficult situations. It helps in changing our patterns and find the way to live the life we want to live.
The Family Constellations Therapy was developed by the German therapist Bert Hellinger and has evolved ever since.
In family constellations we consider every individual as part of something greater, a greater whole: the family system we are living in, rather than an individual acting on its own.
As in every system, the family system also has its own rules, unspoken laws that affect our actions, thinking and beliefs. Most of these rules are hidden and when we are acting we follow them unconsciously. To understand and give ourselves the possibility to change, we have to understand our actions in the context of the family system and its rules.
By participating in a family constellations therapy it becomes possible to bring our hidden dynamics to light from the depth of the unconscious and work with them.
In therapy we do NOT need our family members to be present . We do this work by the help of the group participants to create a constellation of one’s family or situation that can finally lead to understanding and healing.
WHAT HAPPENS IN A SESSION?
It’s a group therapy of 5-12 people. We sit in a room and all participants take a role one by one. When it is your turn you sit beside me you explain your problem briefly and also what you would like to have instead.
I’ll ask you questions about your family and current situation. When we have enough information, you choose the participants to take the role of the family members including yourself. When we work with abstract concepts, feelings, obstacles that stop you from reaching your goal or with parts of your personality we name them and you choose a member of the group to take the role. After choosing the participants you show them their place in the room then you sit back and we just watch them how they start moving in the Space. What we have experienced is that the feelings and thoughts of the participants are very similar to the one who or what they represent and they bring the hidden dynamics visible.
The participants do not need to know anything about the person or the thing they represent as there an obviously existing energy field, the Space that guides the representatives’ movements and allows them to have access to all essential information.
After a while I’ll ask you to take the role of the person who is representing you and we will release the blocking patterns with either some movement or by telling them the sentence that is needed to say, looking in the eye or bowing in front of the destiny of the family members… There is a different solution each time in each case. Changing the pattern in the constellations starts a process in you going towards finding your solutions.